A note on the EX...

I have been married and divorced 3 times. Oddly, I really only count one of them as a marriage(whole other story as to why). I count my third husband. We have been divorced almost 10 years. We have 2 children together that we have shared custody of for the past 10 years, and I have another son from my first marriage.

The first 2 years were pretty difficult, as far as learning to share custody. We parent differently, that's a good thing, but it can make it difficult to see the other persons vantage point and ultimately come to an agreement.

Even after all of these years, I can still count on him, and he can count on me. This would never have been the case if we didn't have the children as our lifetime bond. But we do, and I am glad.

We both have maintained the ability to keep the kids first. In doing that, we share something no one else can, no one else can love kids the way their parents do. That's a bond that is there whether you get along with your ex or not.

Recently, the last year or so, I have experienced some life changes that have really set me back. Depressed me actually. I have "cut out" so many people from my life (I kinda regret this). But he has never been cut out, for more reasons than just the kids. He knows me better than anyone else in this world (the important stuff to know about someone, not the insignificant things). He can tell immediately when I am depressed, happy, etc. He always knows what to say and what to do in a crisis. I think he gets that quality from his father, and I hope he passes it on to our son.

Out of a failed marriage, I got 2 great kids, and a friend for life. I wish I could say that all my exes are great friends, but they aren't. One outta three ain't bad....