If you are of a certain age then you probably remember the much publicised article in Time magazine in the 1980's that said a woman over 40 had about as much chance of getting married as winning the lottery or being struck by lightning.
I actually googled information about chances of getting married over 40, turns out you have a 40% chance of getting married after 40. Therefore I intend to play the lottery a lot more often and stay out of storms.
It's not so much that I want to get married as I would like to find someone that I am compatible with. I feel like I have dated just about every conceivable dateable type (if that's even a word). Out of all of the dateable types, still no one person that I could have spent a lifetime with. There is no way in hell that I am the only one that feels this way (please someone say it aint so!).
Don't get me wrong, I have found men that at some point in the relationship I thought, "Oh this is the one!". Not so much, they always did something I hated and could not live with in the end. It may not have even been considered a "big" thing by most standards, but to me I just know what will eventually drive me nuts. I suppose I should thank my lucky stars that I see it early into the relationship and not wake up after 20 years and not be able to live with them another minute.
I read articles in the newspaper of women that are 90 years old and have been married 65 years and one day they kill their husband by hitting them with the remote control. I feel this woman's pain. Can you imagine that for at least 40 of those years she has asked him to please turn down the t.v. or please just find a channel and stay on it? Then one day she can't take another minute of his hard hearing ass and she just repeatedly bangs him over the head with the remote until she kills him.
I know a few couples that have been married 20+ years (to me this is the winners circle, 20+ years) and both the man and woman of the relationship have things that drive them nuts the whole time and then one day they have just had enough and finally place some sort of ultimatum on their partner. This too worries me. If I were with someone for 20+ years and then an ultimatum on something I had always done was on the chopping block as something I must now stop doing...I'm guessing another divorce would be in my future. Not because I could not reverse my behavior but because I would be so pissed that for 20 years we had lived with it and now it was an issue.
I suppose I will just keep playing the lottery and stay out of storms. Seems to be my best course of action.
Malicious Extrapolation
9 years ago
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and you just listed all my reasons for being single.
ReplyDeleteoh and add to it being married for 50+ years thinking your spouse is faithful only to find out that they had been cheating on you with numerous partners for more than half of your marriage. And now you are at an age where you are too old and too tired and too poor living on soc security to try to make it on your own, so you stay with them, resenting them for the rest of whatever life you have left.
Oh,yeh, there are much worse things than being single. Getting struck by lightning might be one but between being struck by lightning and being married. I'd probably say the lightning is less painful!