I love when people say,"Im just being honest". That is not what they are doing when they tell you they dont like your outfit, shoes or boyfriend. What they are doing is giving their opinion. There is a huge difference in being honest and giving an opinion. An opinion is just that, yours. It actually has nothing whatsoever to do with honesty or truth. Now, you can give your honest opinion, but it still doesn't make the opinion worth considering.
The only opinion worth considering is one that you have asked for. If you have asked for the opinion it means you value the source that the opinion comes from. The worst kind of opinion is one that has not been solicited. Why does the opinion giver think you care what they think? If you wanted their opinion you would ask for it. Which begs the question; what makes the chronic "opinion giver" tick?
Is it because they believe they possess some incredible knowledge that no one else is privy to? Really now, out of billions of people do they really think they know more than everyone else? Maybe they truly do believe they are providing a service to the world.
Im guessing it is a lonely lifestyle to be a chronic opinion giver. If you happen to be on the receiving end of the chronic opinion giver, it's exhausting to pretend to be glad they shared their opinion with you once more... and again, and again.
On the other hand, an open discussion, with an open mind is a totally different ballgame. It involves an exchange of intelligent, thoughtful ideas. This is what is missing with the chronic opinion giver, they rarely have an open mind (their way is right, trust them on that).
Anyway, that's my view, ok call it an opinion on the chronic opinion giver lol....
Malicious Extrapolation
9 years ago
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well, since you feel that way about opinions I am suprised you would choose to have a blog where comments are allowed.
ReplyDeletesince you have always been one to offer an opinion whether it was wanted or not, and never really have worried about whether it was constructive or not, I am suprised you would have this point of view.
But I guess it is always different when the opinion is renedered about you.
My auntie is always offering her opinion on my clothes and boyfriends. She makes me feel awful. I tried changing the subject asking her to keep her opinions to herself unless I asked for it. She got so mad and said I just don't want to face the truth. Im seniding her this column. THANK YOU
ReplyDeleteI remember reading an article on chronic liers once that said they will abuse phrases like, "honestly", "Well, honestly", "Let me tell you, honestly".
ReplyDeleteThe reason being is they need to insert it for themselves, to make them believe what they are saying -- and they usually do.
It is human nature to overlook are worse habits -- things about our selves that we can't stand in others.
Honestly!