I have now tried going back to old lovers and friends. Neither works. I'll tell you why. When you end a relationship you usually do it when you are at the end of your patience with that person. After some time passes, it almost starts to feel like a death of sorts. You tend to remember the good things, and the bad things although still there, fade a bit.
After enough time passes you hope that by trying that relationship again, the good will now outweigh the bad. You think that now you can appreciate the good of the relationship and not focus so much on the bad. But here is what you forgot:
They drive you freaking nuts! It doesn't make them, or you, a bad person. Your personalities just don't mesh. Whatever the reason, it usually does not take as long to end it the second time as it did the first time. The reason for this is, now you have satisfied your curiosity that you didn't just lose patience with that person, you truly are better without the relationship.
I am not sure if I will ever try going back again. I'm too old to be driven nuts by the same people twice. It's exhausting.
Malicious Extrapolation
9 years ago
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I did this too. I tried getting back together with the girls father about a year after we broke up. Lasted one night. Sex was HOT, but as soon as he started talking the next morning I was like . . . what the *#@* am I doing!
ReplyDeleteThere is always a reason they are the "ex", best to leave them that way.
Most of the time they didn't mesh the first time around but for whatever reasons one or the other will keep making concessions to try to make it work until it just isn't worth the ass kissing anymore.
ReplyDeleteIf you can't love people for their flaws you are going to end up resenting them because of them.
People come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime. Very few for a lifetime.
People change, grow up, move on, it's the way of life. Thank god.