I am trying not to dwell on my friend that attempted suicide. There is not much I can do. He is in Seattle, I am in Omaha. He has family taking care of him there. His family let me know that he is voluntarily going for alchohol and substance rehab. His family has already put in place a team of professionals to help him.
I am not getting information as quickly as I would like. But then what would there be to report? I have a feeling of helplessness. I am sure it is best for me to stay clear of the situation anyway, given the reason he gave his doctor for his attempt.
In the "information in a moment" world we live in, it just sucks not to have immediate information regarding my friend. I guess I would even like to know if there is nothing to report. How strange that I need a report that says, "nothing to report".
Time to exercise patience I suppose.
Malicious Extrapolation
9 years ago
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Not letting him know you care that he is in pain is a perfect way to send the message that the reason he gave for trying was not worth it. It will give him the anger he needs to move on with his life.
ReplyDeleteSometimes that is all it takes to leave the past behind and move on.
I would send him flowers or a card. Something that says you are aware of what happened and you care that he tried to kill himself.
ReplyDeleteHell, I'd do that for a neighbor.
I don't think holding yourself back right now sends the right message. It says he is unworthy due to his actions; instead of he is your friend and you care what happens to him.
Just my POV. But as the sister of a suicide victim; the daughter of a mother who has made multiple attempts; and the sibling of more "calls for help" than I can count, I feel pretty strongly about this.
I totally agree with Misty. There are 2 kinds of people in life. Ones who can't deal with any kind of weakness much less than dealing with death and who feel that secretly people who do this kind of thing are weak. And the second kind who feel others pain and who even if they don't understand feel compassion and understand that at times, everyone is weak and need others.
ReplyDeleteYou have to decide which one of those you want to be for this friend.
As Misty said, if you would send a card to a neighbor, why would you not send one to someone who obviously feels strongly for you?