Something new happened today. I got an email from the wife of an online poker buddy. The email asks if my affair with her husband has indeed ended has he has told her.
On occasion at the poker table there is some sexual banter. Nothing you would take seriously of course. It's all done jokingly. And there is definitely nothing that remotely resembles an affair.
I suspect that this husband is having a midlife crisis and has made up this "affair" to make his wife jealous and to see if she still loves and desires him.
But, how do you say this to a woman that believes you have had an affair with her husband? Do you say exactly what I have said here? Or, do you not respond at all? I am not sure what the protocol is here.
I'm taking suggestions.
Malicious Extrapolation
9 years ago
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I have a very good friend whos marriage of 25 years ended because of online "banter". You might have been having fun, but he was having an affair.
ReplyDeleteI doubt he is trying to make her jealous to see if she still loves him. Obviously if he still loved her he wouldn't be saying shit like this. In his mind I would lay odds that he thinks you are seriously attracted to him and he only told her it was ended because he got caught.
The internet is a hotbed of unhappy people pretending to be other than what they are. My friends husband was all of 350 lbs but I can guarantee the woman he was bantering with had no idea. So now he is single, as he deserves. (btw, you know this person, you met her at my house) a cheater is a cheater even if it is only in the persons own mind.
I'd tell her that the only affair you ever had with him is the one that he had in his own mind, but she should take this as a hint that next time he might actually get out of the house and find someone to have a real affair with. I'd lose the loser if I was her.
No offense, but I've seen your flirting in action and I don't find it hard to beleive that some lonely, unhappy husband might take you seriously.
No offense taken lettinggo. I understand your viewpoint.
ReplyDeleteOuch. I would tell her the truth. Don't try to suger coat it or quess as to his intention. Tell her you've never met him in person and while it is not uncommon to swap sexual ineuendos during games there was never anything more.
ReplyDeleteHe caused the issue, it's his marriage, leave him to clean up his own mess.