Addiction. My best friend is battling addiction. It doesn't matter what "kind" of addiction it is because I have decided to replace the word addiction with another, flaw. Battling a flaw puts us all on the same playing field. This way no one person can be judge of another because we are all flawed.
It is easy for people to say to another that you should stop doing this or that because you are addicted. That is a word I find over used. In my years I find that the people that like to point out ones addictions are sometimes the ones with the most flaws. When the word addiction is replaced by flaw, it is hard to find many judges. The reason for this is the fear that their own flaws will be brought to the forefront. For instance....
If you have a nasty character type, it's hard to call that an addiction, but let's take a moment to review the nasty character type i.e. the bad personality. The person with an off putting personality hurts just as many if not more people than the one with the addiction. No one likes the bad personality and is often injured by their crude remarks. However, a smoker for instance at least gets along with other smokers, the bad personalities can't even get along with one another. The alcoholic can find other drinkers, not so the bad personality because they still won't be able to get along.
The alcoholic when drunk may say a bad thing or two at times, but the bad personality figure does so all the time.
Therefore, I propose to replace the word addiction with the word flaw. At least there are support groups for some "addictions". When was the last time you heard of one for the bad personality? Never, and I'll tell you why. No one can stand them long enough to form a group.
It's official, the word addicition is now replaced with the word flaw.
Malicious Extrapolation
9 years ago
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Just a quick note that might help your friend put their flaw into perspective. But the ability to become "flawed" is genetic.
ReplyDeleteThat is why you see so many alcoholics and drug addicts clumped together in a family group.
With that knowledge, it is easier sometimes to realize you WILL have a "flaw"; just choose one that is acceptable to you. Overindulge and get all wrapped up in God, helping others, some sort of hobby/craft, exercising.
It really is easier to swap out flaws than to try to just STOP having one.
Just a thought.
bad personalities can also be genetic. It is called mental illness.
ReplyDeleteThere are many people walking around with undiagnosed mental illness which makes them act in ways that others might see as being a bad personality.
Most people have flaws.
I agree with Misty in that "flaws" of both types tend to run in families and it and it is up the the flawed person to decide if they want to be a victim and be defined by that flaw or if they want to talk control and decide to use it as a postive instead of a negative.