Grunts and Groans...ugh

Ok, I'm gonna admit something that few women admit to or even talk about...I enjoy watching porn with my boyfriend or even alone for that matter. I appreciate a good looking woman (Jillian Michaels from The Biggest Loser is the sexiest woman ever!). If I see an attractive man or woman, I look. The eyes can't help but notice beauty. I don't mind that my man finds women attractive and I don't mind if that same man looks at porn. Here is what I do mind...

I mind that sexual leering at a beautiful woman, comments about said woman as if I am one of the "guys", grunts, groans and flirting. These things I mind a lot! As a matter of fact, I mind it so much that I will break up with someone over it, and have. Here's why...

It makes me feel less important than that  random woman walking down the street or the sexy girl on the shampoo commercial. Is this insecurity or just demanding some respect?

As a younger woman I would have commented on this post and said something to the effect of "confidence is sexy, quit being so insecure". As an older woman I know that younger woman wants to appear cool, confident etc. In reality, her boyfriend has 100 examples of her extreme jealousy.

So, I have decided not to try to appear cool and confident about that type of behavior. No sir, it is not ok. I demand some self control and respect from my significant other. You know what this means though...

I'm gonna have to give that same respect. No more leering at the guy in the grocery store...